I don't pretend to be the right ceremonial officiant for every person. It's my belief that each ceremony offers rewarding opportunities for human connection.
And so it is really important to me that you find an officiant you are comfortable with, who you trust implicitly, and who helps you embrace the pivotal experiences of your life.
But finding the right officiant can be a daunting task -- especially if you are not affiliated with a particular house of worship or if you are marrying outside of your faith.
The key is to ask questions. To help you, I've put together a list of questions to ask of prospective officiants whether they are a Celebrant, Minister, or other Ceremonialist. The questions apply whether you are holding a baby blessing, a wedding, or other occasion. Remember, you are not just looking for someone to speak words from a prewritten text; you want someone who is a writer, a performer, a guide, and is reassuring to boot.
Your ceremony should be reflective of who you are. To do this, your officiant must be committed to understanding your beliefs, your values, and the impact of this particular life event on your own lives. Since it is easy to get caught up in the details of any occasion, remember to treat your ceremony with reverence and find an officiant who does too.
Here are a few other things to reflect upon before, during and after your meeting with a prospective officiant.